All the sudden I noticed that I was referring to my husband as “My Love” here and there. I have no idea how or why I added it to the list of things I call him (I like names and have many for the people I love most in my life…my daughter responds to 5 different names!). I found myself occasionally call my husband “My Love” when I am intentionally being self-sacrificing or purposefully respectful. Some examples are “How was your day My Love?”, “My Love did you happen to take out the trash yet?”, etc. I am not doing it to be manipulative only to be loving, I am all about intentional communication NOT manipulation. However, it seems to soften my tone in my “ask” when I am asking him to do something or asking IF he has done something for me that may have been inconvenient. When I ask him about his day what sounds more intimate, “How was your day?” or “How was your day My Love?”.
I have noticed it softens my heart towards him and naturally disarms the situation. I find myself smiling when I refer to him as My Love and extending an intimate gesture like reaching out to touch his arm. It is an endearing name and mine and his entire existence seems to respond to the charming nature of the name. I think I’ll keep it in the back of my mind in the file, wife hacks.
“Gentle words are a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NLT
Again, this is something I caught myself doing unconsciously but when I noticed it, it made me stop and think. What if I was intentional about how I refer to my man and when in order to better our sex life(frequency, intimacy, etc.)? I usually have the greatest of intentions to have sex with my husband in the earlier part of the evening but for some reason when I finally get to bed I just want to sleep and thoughts of sex just drift away into dreamland. What if I intentionally called him Sexy, Big Daddy, Naughty Boy, Mister Hot Stuff or Hot Bod in the evening after our kids are in bed(let’s not damage the tiny humans more than we already are)? Would it have a similar effect on us both to encourage a sexy mood? I encourage you to try it with me and see if/how it blesses both you and your husband’s moods.
Hugs and Blessing,